I’m confused–an autobiography is about the duration of ones’ life, from what I’ve been told. A memoir is a “slice in time,” not from birth to older/elder years. Is this different than what you learned?
Since I’ve completed my first memoir, I’ve learned that coming to a place of acceptance, maybe not until the epilogue, granted, but realizing that this is YOUR story, they have THEIR story
(and they are free to write their own book)
and the reality that then, there is usually a TRUTH some where in between the two stories has taken a lot of the guilty feelings from my heart.
And when it comes right down to it, we can’t control how they will react to anything we write about, do or say in our lives…on occasion they have a very unexpected, 180 degree different reaction than we could have ever anticipated and real, profound healing can happen!! Isn’t that a good thing, rather than trying to guess what they might do, say, or feel?
In the “real world” of hurt feelings and law suits , however, changing names is a good idea, as well as using a pen name, being discreet about your recent past time while you spend hours and months at the computer AND cya with looking into legal issues if the story remains too specific to be considered ambiguous, are all good ideas, too.