@elizabeth Oooo this is juicy. I’m useless on the first one, but every member of my family is out of their mind, so I’m going to email you some bits and pieces of things I can remember for your second question in case they might inspire. For instance, one of my sisters was given up for adoption, but then she hired an investigator when she turned 21 and came back and found her (my) biological mother. She and I are basically twins and we’re really close, but my other sisters are not close with her…it doesn’t cause tension for us, but it totally could have built up into an issue over the years and formed a rift if my other sisters were different types of people.
I shall mine my sordid family history and send things your way!