I like to ask the person I am critiquing, what kind of critique they want. In the past, I’ve gone in guns a blazing only to be told they wanted a light critique. I’ve also gone lightly only for the critique person to annoyed I wasn’t hard enough. Depending on what kind of critique a person wants, I try and give a nice balanced critique. One critique followed by a compliment (hey the dialogue is great here!) etc. I’ve recently had someone in my local critique group who has just been REALLY rude and hurtful with critique so I try to remember what it feels like to receive that kind of critique.