“If I waited for inspiration to strike, I’d never write.” Q&A with Kristyn Kusek Lewis
I had the pleasure of reading an advance copy of How Lucky You Are by the talented Kristyn Kusek Lewis and devoured it in a weekend. The book really hits the nail on the head when it comes to the reality of female friendships, relationships and the deadly comparison game that we all play in life. I recommend this book to anyone who has ever thought they would rather have someone else’s “perfect life” as a good reminder to stop and smell the roses – and see the amazingness that we ALL have in our own lives.
Kristyn stopped by to answer our 7 quick fire questions and 3 expert tips on remembering how lucky you are.
7 Quick Fire Questions
1. Favorite way to relax: At a spa. Years ago, my New Year’s resolution was to get a massage every month for a year. It is easily one of the smartest things I’ve ever done.
But in my real life, which involves two small kids, two large dogs, and a major home renovation, I don’t get to a spa all that often, so I like to have a scotch with my husband after the kids are in bed.
2. Nickname: It’s a long story but when I was in my early twenties, my girlfriends dubbed me Spesh. It stuck, and it’s what everyone from that time of my life calls me. And my dad’s always called me Dinky.
3. The material item you could never give up: My engagement ring from my husband, which I wear in the usual place, and my grandmother’s engagement ring, which I wear on my right hand.
4. Last Facebook status: I wrote that I loved seeing all of my friends’ photos of their kids on the first day of school.
5. Favorite book cover: Can I say my own? The designer did such a stellar job, and I had nothing to do with it. I also love Meg Mitchell Moore’s covers—they’re so elegant and evocative.
6. Writing routine: I have dedicated writing time every morning until lunchtime, while my kids are in preschool, and a few afternoons a week. I believe strongly in having a rigid work schedule—if I waited for inspiration to strike, I’d never write. That said, I’m constantly scribbling random lines and ideas on slips of paper, napkins, and the back of my hand.
7. Your last supper would be…? Easy! My mother’s fried chicken and mashed potatoes with my grandmother’s macaroni and cheese on the side. They’re Southern. They know comfort food.
3 Ways to Remember How Lucky You Are
1. Don’t compare. Theodore Roosevelt famously said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” There will always be people who are richer, smarter, more beautiful, whatever, but nobody else gets to be you.
2. Give yourself a daily reminder to be grateful. My family goes around the dinner table and recounts the best and worst parts of our day (or, as my four-year-old calls it, our “best favorite” and “worst favorite”).
3. Remember that a perfect life doesn’t exist, and that attempting to live that way is capital-B boring. Think about it: Would you rather spend time with a woman whose interior seems as perfectly pressed as her exterior, or someone who laughs at herself, admits her mistakes, and encourages you to do the same?
About How Lucky You Are
Waverly, who’s always been the group’s anchor, runs a cozy bakery but worries each month about her mounting debt. Kate is married to a man who’s on track to be the next governor of Virginia, but the larger questions brewing in their future are unsettling her. Stay-at-home mom Amy has a perfect life on paper, but as the horrific secret she’s keeping from her friends threatens to reveal itself, she panics.
As life’s pressures build all around them, Waverly knows she has some big decisions to make. In doing so, she will discover that the lines between loyalty and betrayal can become blurred, happy endings aren’t always clear-cut, and sometimes you have to risk everything to gain the life you deserve.
With its sensitive depiction of important issues, including spousal abuse, HOW LUCKY YOU ARE will spark interesting discussions among women’s reading groups and book clubs.
More about Kristyn Kusek
Kristyn Kusek Lewis holds an MFA in Creative Writing from Vermont College of Fine Arts, and has worked in magazines for over 15 years. She has written for the New York Times, O, The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple,Glamour, Allure, Good Housekeeping, Self, More, and Redbook, among other publications.
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